"Making Up" after the Break Up



Posted: Sunday, March 29, 2009

by Norma Marshall

It happens every day. Couples break up. Possibly you are one of them. If you recently experienced a break up and you're wondering is "making up with my ex" possible? You may want to make up and get your ex back immediately. This is not uncommon. Obsessing about the break up can lead you into a depressed state emotionally. While wondering what to do you may consider calling your ex and begging him or her to come back to you. Do you think that this will help and make things better? Rather than make things better, it probably will escalate the situation and drive your ex even further away. If you are bent on making up. do the opposite of what you are feeling. If you feel like calling your ex. Do not! If you feel like staying inside and crying all day long, resist. Follow the suggestions below and you will have a much better chance of making up with your ex. Step 1 - How to make up with my ex: Accept the Break Up! - First and most important, you need to accept that the break up has happened. Tell your ex that you are okay with it, and allow the "moving on" process to begin. When you clear the air and face the music, it will eliminate a large amount of the tension and stress everyone around you is experiencing. Both of you will need time to think and consider your options. Your ex may realize he or she still loves you and will find a way to make up with you when the pressure is released.

Step 2 - How to make up with my ex: Make no contact - Do not make any effort to contact your ex at all. Cut all communication off with him or her. There must be some "thinking time". This may seem counter intuitive to you but by stopping your outreach, you are sending a message that you are doing just fine and have already moved on. This will allow him or her to think about the relationship and how much value they place on it. It will also give them time to miss you again. When you completely remove yourself from your ex and you both are calm again it will be easier to evaluate the relationship and realize just how important the other person is to your happiness.

Step 3 - How to get back with my ex and make up: Plan Ahead for the Get Together - After going through steps one and two you can start working on the planning stage. Think about when and where you should meet, Think about what you should say when you do meet up again. This will allow you to get a better idea of whether or not there is any chance that you and your ex will be able make up. "Making up" with an ex can be a little more complicated and involve more time than indicated in the three steps above. These three steps do give you a good start and will improve your chances of winning your ex back and making up.
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